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“The way the brain deals with trauma is to suppress. It doesn’t forget. It just pushes the trauma somewhere deep, where it continues to exert its power without you being aware of it.”

Excerpt From

The Man I Love

Suanne Laqueur

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“I don’t know if it will ever cease to be a painful subject, Erik. Possibly this is always going to matter to you. The goal now is to learn to open your heart and trust. Not so much trust in love or trust in people, but trust in yourself. So if you do get hurt—and that’s probably a when not an if—you will be able to survive. Because you have survived.”

“But I’m a wreck. I’m on meds, I’m in therapy. This fucking woman ruined my life.”

“You’re alive. You’re here in this office taking it on. This is it, Erik, this is surviving. It’s not one event, it’s a process. And it’s not a linear process. You don’t start at point A and just get to point B and you’re fine again. It’s a matrix. It’s a three-dimensional scaffold you build around your life. The point is you can lean into your weak moments the same way you can lean into joy. Pain makes joy sweeter. And joy helps you survive pain. You can’t have one without the other. If you open yourself to both, you are, by default, surviving.”

Excerpt From

The Man I Love

Suanne Laqueur

This material may be protected by copyright.